New Ways of Thinking
Pain, suffering, confusion…
What is life really all about?
I ask Scott this question now, because we are going to answer it in a new way. Challenges are a clear signal Spirit is at work within us.
We share about soul plans now, nearly every time we write.
It is the answer to so many questions that arise as we live with grief. Actually it is every aspect of our lives…when we are happy, filled with love, failure, pain, success, flourishing…everything.
Everything…yes everything is soul planned. Many of you may not like the sound of that.
That’s ok, it’s quite normal…
But I must explain how I got here.
When Scott died/left, I began to see/feel that my old thinking was not providing me with any clear understanding of life, the unbelievable agony of missing him, the unexpected courage that came through me, often like a bolt of lightening, or the confusion of what life is really all about. There were horrible moments…and beautiful ones too… How can we find balance within so much that doesn’t make sense?
It is a new time, a new era for grief relief and continuing relationships. Which is so ironic, because the book I co-authored in 2007 is titled ~ Surviving and Thriving, Grief Relief and Continuing Relationships. I see how much I have learned and grown since we self published that book…as well as the incredible changes in spiritual awareness that have been opened up to us. In ten years, it is vastly different…in beautiful, profound and powerful ways.
This does not mean that today, your grief is not as devastating as it was for me, or others whose children and loved ones left this earth earlier. No, no. Pain and missing cannot be measured in years, or by anything that is seen as a tool of emotional anguish or healing.
2017 ~ This is time of opening up our awareness…which is coming from Spirit…to ensure us that life continues beyond what we have called “death”. This is a magnificent gift to carry within our broken hearts.
And yes, this blog is titled Death Teaches…because, really truly, it does. The initial shock and mourning that envelopes us when we must face the reality of life ending as we knew it for our children and loved ones…is beyond comprehension in too many ways.
The extraordinary beauty I see in this rather new awareness of our loved ones “leaving”, “returning to Spirit”, “going Home”, “transitioning”, left her/his body”, and other terminology is that we know now that life IS eternal!
But how did we get here?
Scott died/left in 1994. Twenty-three years ago. I have studied my own grief and worked with hundreds of bereaved parents over those years. I now know that not one year of those
twenty-three was wasted…
365 days a year were used to show more, to open me up to a path I could not have seen so early in my grief, with knowledge that could not be learned in any school…or degree of the highest level.
Even today, with the awareness I have developed day to day, with the books and resources that have become available through the years, I am still learning, seeing more than ever…as the spiritual world opens up to us in even greater ways. It is truly extraordinary.
Three weeks ago, as I sat in the Cleveland Clinic, an hour from our home, my husband, Jay, was having open heart surgery. It was planned, as we discovered in February he needed a new aortic valve. Still, open heart surgery! He’s done very well and we are happy he’s recovering so quickly.
I share this, because I took only one book to read for what turned out to be a four hour surgery and five more days at the beautiful, actually world renowned Cleveland Clinic. It was a book I grabbed at the last minute, leaving my other reading choices at home. I clearly knew I was being guided to take Many Lives, Many Masters by Dr. Brian Weiss. I read this book twenty years ago!
As I was rereading each page, with fading yellow highlighted paragraphs, I was surprised at how much of what I highlighted back then was still so meaningful and powerful today. I loved that I was so open and wanting, needing, to delve into past lives at that time.
Yes…please keep reading…
We have past lives. We came into this life with a soul plan to take us through another lifetime with everyone who has come into our lives…to find balance and greater understanding, a bigger picture of life and death, and find purpose that could not be found otherwise…
We would not ever choose, we think, to grow in this way. But pain teaches. It forces us to see more, ask for help, demand answers, go deeper, feel a determination come within us we never knew existed…because we have been taken to a place that nothing makes sense, feels so unfair or cruel, literally shocks us to the core of who we are.
In reading Many Lives, Many Masters I could see so clearly, through Brian Weiss’ discoveries as a well respected psychiatrist, that there is so much more to life and death…and everything in between.
His own life and beliefs were changed forever with what he experienced and learned through one woman’s pain filled life…as her past lives were revealed to both of them.
Prior to reading this book twenty years ago, I had never thought of past lives. I did not have beliefs one way or another if past lives even existed, or cared. But in my desperate need to understand “why” or “how” Scott, my healthy nineteen year old only child could die suddenly…my soul was demanding answers…and this book soothed my heart…
Mom/Sara could never have known that raw morning twenty years ago when she desperately phoned a medium (never had spoken to her before) in California for HELP!!!…that she would awaken her with a three hour time difference, and be given the words…”You need to read
Many Lives, Many Masters by Brian Weiss”. This gracious woman did not ask for payment, only knew that was the message she was meant to bring to Sara/Mom.
Today, we share those words…for you to consider reading something that may go far beyond your beliefs or comfort level. Spirit teaches in ways that may seem contrary to you…but it may be exactly what you need. Hint, hint!