What can pain teach you?

In this lifetime…I have been shown that in my life plan/soul plan with Scott that our love is forever…FOREVER

You see…Scott and I have shared many lives before this one…thousands even…

I could not have known this before Scott died…because…well…I was pretty clueless about any of that…

Death taught me…

In my desperation to understand Scott’s death…I learned that we have shared so much in previous lives…that in this one…we needed to begin to open up our relationship in ways we could not have ever done before…

Through the signs and dreams…the messages…and now his words literally streaming through me…

Scott…was providing me with the absolute knowing that he was still around me…knowing where I was…and what I was doing…

He made me search to find meaning for what was was being brought to me

Scott showed me through his messages that I was able to move through the immense pain of grief to this greater knowing…that he exists… That our soul plans came together again…to teach me…grow me…and that the two us will continue this work forever…

I remember so clearly the day I was walking through our new neighborhood…with the empty lots not yet built on being so dry and filled with rocks and debris…

When…I spotted tiny purple flowers growing up through the dried up dirt…through a crack…and out of it came this lovely little plant!

I had to really stop and look at it…because it was amazing to see what could grow through a crack in the ground…with so little to provide it nourishment!

And then… I heard the words… “Bloom where you are planted”…

…I stepped back…took a breath…and knew it was Scott

Bloom where you are planted Mom.”

Oh my God… Yes…this dirt was like my life… How could anything new ever grow within me?

I was depleted…and empty in so many ways. My heart was broken and my life could never ever be the same…

And yet…

The voice within me brought me those words…

Bloom where I am planted?

How? How? How can that happen now?

Bloom is a big word when we feel as we do…

“Bloom” goes way beyond what I was doing…which was just trying to survive

But at that moment… I knew something more than I had before…

Scott was encouraging me to grow…somehow even thrive in an environment that seemed impossible to do so…

Just like the little purple flowers…

I could not ever ignore Scott’s words… He was teaching me… Through nature and words on pages and in other’s words to me… So many different ways…

Was I stronger than I thought? Did he see a strength in me I could not see or feel?

I could not ignore him…or his words…

He became my lifeline to growth… Pushing me to see myself in new ways

Like another time I was walking on the bike path… And I heard the music come into my mind… the Army advertisement song… “Be all you can be…”

Again…I was shocked and in awe of what he could bring to me…that I could understand…and take in…and know it had great meaning…and never forget…

Encouragement… Love… Encouragement… Love…

This past weekend I suffered another one of the many horrendous headaches that have forced me to bed… Such pain that medication or anything else has never been able to help me…

So sick and tired of this I am…

I still don’t feel good…

But the lessons are this pain… I know that…

I do not feel enough energy running through me to fight this pain…

It invades my sleep and every aspect of my life…

And yet… I know the answers will come…from Scott…

As Scott

Yes Mom…the pain teaches…

It is the catalyst for more growth…with every headache…

Today we write to our readers in a way that brings them into our lives…in a new way…

As Scott and Sara..and Spirit’s ways of teaching you Mom…know that this pain you are enduring will teach others too…

That pain is physical AND spiritual

All pain is…

The pain from OUR deaths…to the lasting pain of loss…to the growth within that takes you to new places…conferences…support groups…counseling…new friendships…to books, Facebook, to the soothing places that fill you up again…the beach…nature…finding purpose once again and…more…

Trusting that Mom/Sara’s pain and your pain IS spiritual… It is the wake up call to seek help…share with others with what has helped them… Change your habits or “quick fixes”… Get a physical…a massage…or a life style change…eat better…

The spiritual work WE do within you is to teach you to open your mind up to new thinking

As Mom/Sara has worked for over twenty years on grief and learning to see more…and even thriving in new ways… She IS blooming where she is planted…

She took my message to heart

As our lives were soul planned…as Sara and Scott… We planned to be together in this lifetime… Nothing is random…

I am always going to be in Mom’s life… Just like your loved ones…will be in your’s…

And even if the connection does not seem enough for you right now…trust what can come in the future…

Everyone has a different life plan/soul plan… So as Sara/Mom has the ability to channel me as Scott…that was planned for her in this lifetime…

Your plans are different…meaningful beyond what you can see now…

Trusting in a bigger picture and that your loved one’s energy is a constant in your life and those in your family…and friends…can bring you the greatest peace of mind.

Stretch your thinking…open your minds… The reality of life and death is a challenge…until you know more… It can make more sense…

Mom’s head pain is leaving… Her lessons were wrapped up in this blog… to trust in her soul planning with me, Scott. She is wiser today

To think pain is just there to hurt… No… It has meaning…always has meaning.

With love,
Scott and Sara
xox

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  • Kimberly Trent
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    Wow! Bloom where I am planted. Today is my birthday. Bitter sweet. 13th one with my mom physically gone. But ive already heard her whisper happy birthday kimberly in my ear. ♡ thank you for this.

    • Sara Ruble
      Reply

      So happy for you Kimberly that you listen to the whispers… Yes, bittersweet but oh so meaningful. Thank you for sharing…
      Happy Birthday. Bloom! xox

  • Kathy Gautsch
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    Dearest Sara, I hope you’re pain is leaving and that you are feeling better! I know you work through it – and I also know that pain does teach and does have meaning. Doesn’t mean we necessarily like it . . . 🙂 Love you!
    Kathy

    • Sara Ruble
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      Oh yes Kathy…you know too. We will never like the pain…but knowing it has meaning…that it slows us down and forces us to listen in new ways…is the purpose of it. So much to learn. Thank you dear friend and I am feeling better. Love you too.

  • Linda Recht
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    I just read this, my dear Sara. I hope you are feeling better. Pain can sure stop us in our tracks. Love you!

    • Sara Ruble
      Reply

      I am much better Linda… Thank you. I know my pain comes to teach me…as it does for all of us. I search for the answers too… xox

  • Stephanie Maynard
    Reply

    Love this… Love love love!!! Thank you!!!!

    • Sara Ruble
      Reply

      Thank you Steph. So much to learn, isn’t there? Going beyond what we have been told and finding our own truths pushes us to grow and find greater peace of mind. …And even more…
      xox

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