Is life fair?

What does death teach us about the word “fair”?

Is life not fair anymore? Was life ever fair?

Because of the death of our beloved loved ones…we are often forced to look at what happens in terms of fair…or not…

How our child or loved one died… the doctors actions…friends actions…the hospital…even the woman in line at the grocery store…

Life…

Is that fair??  No! It was not fair!

What do we do when life comes and it is not as we want it to be, need it to be, demand it to be?

Will I get so mad and so determined to fight because of the unfairness this death brought to me…or my child…or loved one?

Will my strength come through me in anger…or purposeful actions?

Will I become a proponent or opponent of something because what my life has brought me…or because of you…my precious child, my beloved loved one?

Because of what I feel or see as unfairness?

What can we learn from life being fair or not being fair?

It shows itself in ways we cannot always see…it creeps inside and invades our physical body…or in comes out screaming and raging and unable to be held in…

Fair is a simple word with huge outcomes…

What have you done with your feelings of fairness or unfairness?

It showed itself to me by bringing me to my knees in agony…or with gratefulness…or extreme sorrow… Oh…so, so many ways.

LIfe beyond the normal…when raw emotions and great pain took me to places never before visited…

Can we see ourselves with any clarity at all?

Can we think straight? Or do we have even greater clarity…because of life and death…and how we now see it…

I have been in these places…all of them.

So hurt by the unfairness of life…and Scott’s sudden death…

It’s cruel what we must endure…

And then I was forced to see what could be done to change the fairness or the unfairness I was trapped in…

When death showed me… This is final… You cannot change the outcome of Scott’s death Sara…

And then Scott began to show me more…

Yes…as Scott/Spirit…bringing these insights now to you Mom…and our readers as well…

Spiritual love is completely and absolutely unconditional…not in terms of fairness or unfairness…

Just love.

Spiritually…WE see your journey…and know why WHY you came to the earth in this lifetime. We know you will have many, many experiences…with US. Whether WE experienced a brief life together or a longer life together…it all has meaning

By the word meaning…WE mean that nothing you experience is a mistake…

Your soul plans are meaningful beyond meaning…

WE see what you need to experience in this lifetime and how you will be shown greater perspectives, greater meaning, clarity, new friendships, growth, a bigger picture of life…and death…in the midst of the pain and suffering…

Yes…

Death pushes you to see beyond what you’ve ever known…to feel more than you could have imagined…

Fair or unfair?

Life as you knew it…opened you up to this…

Life is not as I want it to be… People are mean… I’m not understood…This is too much for me to endure… I hate this!

And then you remember…what does my child see? What does my loved one see? Is this ALL wrong?

Can there be anything good come from your death?
Can I learn more? …Can I begin to think like you do?

Can the spiritual meaning of life and death begin to feel better to me than this ungodly pain and confusion?

As Scott/Spirit…one with your loved ones and God…

We know you are on a journey of great magnitude…

It will bring you new insights…

WE…in Spirit

Are here to open you up to this new insight…

Love is the guide that will take you to the place you need to be…

OUR LOVE

WE are forever within your life…and guiding you through anger and pain and confusion…to the knowing that you are seeing more…

It may not be as you thought… It may be too slow… Or you may feel others are getting in the way of your healing… But trust…they are teaching you something…

So with fair and unfair… Life was never really fair… You learned this as children and then throughout life… WE learned this as your children and loved ones…

Life will bring pain and anguish…and great love and support too…

Let go of fair and unfair

Life has much to teach you… WE have much to teach you

As Sara and Scott… We reach out to tell you this… Our love cannot be measured in the ways humans view love… It is too magnificent for description. We know you feel that too…

Trusting in a bigger view of life and death…a spiritual connection that is forever…and will never break or snap under any condition…deepens your knowing of the never random signs, dreams and messages…

And that life is not always fair…and death hurts…and others cannot understand your pain…

You are on a new path…of depth…and unconditional love…and you are a teacher
Trust love.

Sara and Scott
xoxoxoxo

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  • Linda Recht
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    It is so hard to let go of fair and unfair as I try to make sense of events that make no sense at all. You and Scott are helping me to begin to understand. Thank you!

    • Sara Ruble
      Reply

      I know Linda… Life is so confusing in itself…but death creates an overwhelming amount of confusion and pain that cannot always be understood…until…we have more to work with…to grow from…listen to…read about. It is part of the battle, the journey, the pain…to come to greater understanding and begin live within this new reality… You’re getting there… xoxo

  • Ellyn Hanson
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    Sara,

    Maybe you remember me .. perhaps not .. I lost my 16 year old son Morgan 19 months ago. All the same .. this journey … rips me to sheds some days .. this journey of not having my son Morgan with my physically anymore.

    Someday’s there is light and joy .. there is .. but more often than not something sets me off track and I once again wonder just as you said in your blog today … The fairness of life – how cruel it is .. how mean people are .. and I am so very anxious to step out of this life and into the life my son is in .. but every morning I wake up.

    This weekend was terrible. Challenged with mental anguish and mean people, which led me into my physical pain again, and I wondered why.

    — Then ….. I wake up and the first thing I see on the internet this morning in my email is your message. Thank you Sara, Thank you Scot .. and thank you my precious son Morgan for putting the stepping stones in my way that will lead me back into your hugging arms .. home with you again ..

    With tears of gratitude and tears of pain in grief I have yet to overcome or even turn the page in .. Thank you Sara for your words to remind me.

    Ellyn ~

    • Sara Ruble
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      Dear Ellyn… Yes, I remember you… Oh my, I am ever so grateful our words have helped you today. They are Scott’s words, they are Morgan’s words…coming to help you just as you wrote. We need new perspectives…and that is why Scott and I write… Thank you ever so much for courageously sharing your pain and what you have learned today… You will help others through your words too Ellyn…
      Love, Sara

  • Audrey
    Reply

    As Scott and you say Sarah… Trust love, because really.. Love is all there is.
    Love, Audrey

    • Sara Ruble
      Reply

      Yes Audrey… And I had to learn this too.
      xoxo

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